“It is better to create than to be learned, creating is the true essence of life.” —Barthold Georg Niebuhr
Seduction is something that you must feel. It is not something that you can think about, plan, or get just right. Just like scratching a rash doesn’t make it heal, thinking, planning, rationalizing and overanalyzing do not work in seduction. For, just like scratching the rash interrupts the natural processes of healing, so too does rationalizing and being too thoughtful affect the natural processes of seduction.
The main misunderstanding of most is that intelligence, cunning, or planning have some special place in the merits of behavior, that, somehow, through some secret, through some righteous understanding, everything will come to them. Alas, we forget that even intelligence, analysis, and planning aren’t all that special in the world of behavior. People are animals too. We respond to simple, basic things.
We respond to our senses: what we can hear, taste, smell, touch and see. We, just like any other animal in a herd, tribe, gaggle, school, or litter, are that curious thing that constantly tests the electric fence, seemingly too stupid to realize that we can walk around it. Humming and harring at obstacles, we too shift our approach from caution, to curiosity, to frustration, and to anger. We, like that curious animal, take a while of grunting, humming and harring, until we eventually figure things out. Even with our brainpower and expensive educations. Despite what we may like to believe, on the outside, we still appear just the same as any other animal, when going about things.
The only difference about being human is that, even though all of the outside characteristics seem the same as they once did — simple emotional tendencies and cues such as aggression, frustration, and banging one’s head against a wall — we think that within these basic behaviors lies something more powerful than, say, simply walking around the electric fence. On the inside we think we are being intelligent. We believe that we are coming up with solutions or are achieving something beyond what anything else could possibly achieve. Whilst arguably this may be true at other times, it’s definitely not relevant in seduction. This is due to a very powerful fundamental that is often overlooked.
One could compare this fundamental to the metaphor of how one’s mood would affect the music one would compose. Thoughts aren’t helpful in this process — this principle is of the utmost importance in seduction. This is similar to how one would only be getting in one’s own way by thinking in the martial arts, sports, or music. One’s thoughts in seduction get caught up in, and retard the feelings and moods that are weaved into what one is doing in seduction. If one is thinking in the martial arts, he becomes rigid and weak. If one is thinking in sports, he becomes disoriented and flustered. If one is thinking in music, the keys clamber and the body gets in the way of itself, causing a forced, unnaturally rigid quality to the music. This is also all true in seduction. Thinking and analyzing disrupt the natural processes of seduction: the natural processes that help everything come together and work effectively.
So, whilst we have a million different reasons why we should think, there is but only one reason why we shouldn’t. In many ways, this animal that we are plays many different songs, with the same emotions and actions that most in the animal kingdom so similarly share. By thinking and over analyzing, we get in the way of this natural process, and disrupt our natural symphonies, and the interconnection of our actions. How you experience the world around you has a most powerful influence on the symphony that your actions and feelings weave. It is through this means that your actions are either beautiful or, if impeded by thinking, seem forced and unnatural.
It is so much easier if you forget the complications that everyone has told you that you need to know. Instead, as the simple animal that you are, in the simple world that you are in, stop imagining that you are intelligent, and start feeling. For, as almost every species on the planet has come to learn, even though our actions are simple and limited, our potential can indeed be great. Just like the body can only move in so many ways, just like an instrument is made up of simple strings, just like an artist’s canvas is made up of so many colors — so too is our basic and limited animal also made capable in the process of dancing.
Women, and men alike, overanalyze things incessantly in the world of romance and seduction. Every little nuance having to be understood and twisted. Every action considered, weighed, regretted, and then reinforced. However, such a strategy ignores the obvious. It is not so much any individual behavior itself that matters, but the chain or sequence of events that are of relevance. Intelligence is of little use in seduction. Thinking and analyzing too much in seduction are about as useful as banging one’s head against a wall. It’s rather ironic that people think that the analogous behavior is actually doing something. People think this way because, on the inside, it feels as if this magical form of frustration, rigidity, and confusion called thinking is actually accomplishing something.
Fortunately, for all of the thinkers out there who want seduction to help them gain a sense of control and find a source of meaning, as I will detail through this blog, it becomes apparent that the more instinctive, primal, and creative forces of seduction aren’t as stupid as they seem at first glance. In many ways, the forces of seduction are a kind of super- intelligence, a kind of intelligence that must be used to adapt to the rigorous demands of seduction. If you’ve heard me talk about this with relation to The Desire System then check out this review at BeBe Reviews, it will back me up. In a very real way, there is intelligence in something as simple as adaptation, just as there is intelligence in music, sport, and other skills. Some of the basic forces of seduction, which David Tian describes, will do things that one never would have even imagined possible. In coming to understand this, you will see that there is no flaw in this animal that we are. You will see that our simple, limited animal selves can do more than we ever dreamed possible, with our feeble analytical skills. Come with me, as we discover that the most powerful principles of seduction are much more than they seem, as we come to realize the irrelevance of thinking and analyzing in seduction.